We are quickly approaching the end of a lousy year. Not just lousy for me but for multitudes of folks this has been a year with no comparison. We've seen things happen this year that we've never seen, nor ever thought would happen.
Our personal loss was horrific, something no parents should have to endure. However, parents all over the world endure the pain of the losses of their children. We all hope it won't happen to us, but for some of us, it does.
Our difficulties are continuing. We don't ever know when we will break down. We are aging rapidly. The loss of our child hit us violently. It's hit us at our most vulnerable. It's not held back. It keeps jabbing at us and kicking us when we're down.
We seek counsel and hear the other folks talk about their emotions and how they handle things that are hitting them from stem to stern. These folks may have a loss similar to ours but how they handle their own emotions, I can never understand, because I am not them, nor them me. Yes, we understand the feelings of loss and we can sympathize but we can't know what their daily life is like without that loved one. We can barely understand our own daily life without our own loved one.
It seems that every week, no make that almost every day, there has been another celebrity or prominent person lost. No matter who it might be it makes our loss more tangible. We could have been in a good spot for a minute or two then we're hit between the eyes with something else tragic. It puts us into another tailspin.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is: be nice to everyone because you don't have a clue what they are dealing with on a minute to minute basis. They can show a facade of happiness and be dying in the inside. They can look fabulous, even enviable, but be riddled with disease you can't imagine.
The losses to the universe as a whole are not all known to us yet.
We'll see what happens over this next year. Things may not be as bad as
we think they're going to be, but then again, there's no guarantee of
that either. I guess it's "one day at a time" to the rescue again for
all of us.
For us 2017 can't come soon enough...